Something I want to talk to you guys about

[ICEheaven102]

Last night, I got into a Skype argument with my cousin. The backstory behind all this is that my friend borrowed my cousin's XBOX and my cousin wants it back, but my friend keeps forgetting to give it back/give a time my cousin can come over to give it back, so my cousin asked me to relay messages from him to my friend. Eventually, my cousin gets really mad at him, and at one point or another takes it out on me. I get pretty mad, and I sorta shrug it off. However, last night, this happened (These messages are from Skype) :


Also guys, please note that at this time, my family is packing LOTS of stuff, since we'll be moving to a new house next month. And in case anyone is wondering how old my cousin is, he's around 20-22.


Cousin:
-hey dex
-does andrew have any mail there?
-because his friend said he does

Me:
-Uhh idk
-My dad never checked (My dad is the one that checks mail around my house btw guys)

Cousin:
-and you apparently told him he doesn't

Me:
-in GMOD atm so replies will be slow

Cousin:
-don't know what that even is
-but that's pretty rude
-but thanks for nothing
-dexter that's extremely disrespectful you know that right?
-because i'm probably talking about something more important than a match you are having in something
-because i'm just trying to help a buddy out by asking if he has mail
-and the least you could do is check
-not give me bullshit like 'uhh idk'
-and by not replying to my messages last time, don't think i've magically forgotten
-so good luck with that in the future

Me:
-Dude
-I just said I'm ingame
-I said nothign rude

Cousin:
-maybe to you its not rude
-but in the context anyone else can read it
-its rude
-because clearly your game is more important than anything right?
- and what was that bullshit last time?
-i gave you some pretty good advice
-no reply
-so yeah, forgive me if i IMAGINE your rudeness
-but you can't say it's all a figment of my imagination

Me:
-I jsut simply said I'm ingame atm
-I never said anything to offend you
-I'm not even trying to offend you
-I simply just said:
-I don't know if there's any mail because I haven't checked yet
-2. I said I'll reply slow because I'm ingame

Cousin:
-and not replying properly last time we had a long discussion about your attitude and behaviour?

Me:
-I had to go help my family with carrying stuff
-I forgot to reply, sorry

Cousin:
-well i just hope at least one thing i said sunk in because honestly
-your behaviour can be classified as douchey in some aspects
-and i'm pretty sure you don't want to come off that way
-so basically i'm just trying to help warn you
-i know you don't want to be a douche or jerk

Me:
-I do not understand what you are saying
-Please explain to me how what I did is "douchy"
-I never swore to you
-I simply said I'll be afk

Cousin:
-how bout not replying to anything i said when i was trying to point out why you were douchy
-and swearing isnt the only thing that makes you douchy
-so dont try and play off your behaviour
-look you can talk back all you want
-but you can't even deny that what you did was actually reasonable or polite

Me:
-Sorry about that, my internet disconnected
-What I did wasn't "polite"
-But you're being to overreactive about this

Cousin:
-i respectfully disagree
-because it's never too early to try and help things get better

Me:
-You're acting too much like a "white knight" right now. All I said was I'll be ADK for a bit. Normally, you would just say "kk". Also, I"m not even sure if there's any mail, since I'm not the one who checks the mail

Cousin:
-see that's precisely my point
-because first off, something as simple as checking if there is mail is not that difficult
-saying 'uhh idk too busy in game to check'
-yup, that makes you a douche

Me:
-What I said was fairly reasonable
-It's 11 at night
-I'm sitting downstairs

Cousin:
-lol you keep believing that

Me:
-My dad never checkedt he mail today
-You're being way too unreasonale

Cousin:
-i am?
-how bout you ask anyone around you if what i said was unreasonable
-or what YOU said was unreasonable
-let me know the answer
-until then
-maybe you should go to sleep
-and not play so much games?
-later then!

Me:
-You're different now
-I don't know what happened

Cousin:
-see that's the problem
-it isn't ME who is changing dex...
-i've already gone over with this kind of discussion with you before
-but its you that has something negative to say each time
-staying up to play games?
-that's not supposed to be the usual right?
-so honestly i think you should reassess the situation
-because if games are too distratcing you from real life
-then they have in fact been played too much
-i do not believe i am the only one who thinks this dexter
-i'm merely saying what's on everyone's mind

Me:
-What's on everyone's mind?
-No, my friend
-Sounds like more of what's on YOUR mind
-You cannot asume all people think alike

Cousin:
-lol see my 'friend'
-that's the thing
-i'm not assuming
-don't you think i've talked to everyone that knows you?
-i do not know one person who hasn't said you play too much games?
-i cannot blame them
-they are correct for the most part
-i think your attitude is taking quite a turn here
-because even the slightest of tasks have started to irritate you
-and i really think you should talk to other people
-for instance
-your whole family
-and ask them what they think
-and maybe how you can address it for the better
-and if you want proof
- i'm talking with andrew
-and just a couple minutes ago when i was talking about his mail
-he even said you were unreliable and play too much games, and were getting lazy
- sorry to break it to you
-i hope there is going to be a wakeup call for you
-we aren't saying games = bad for your health
-we are saying gaming all day nonstop can have negative consequences on your lifestyle
-that's all that needed to be said
-and i said it peacefully
-so i'm going to keep talking to other people for a while
-goodnight dexter

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In case if you guys are wondering, here was out first argument:

Cousin:
-ok so dex i'm leaving on wednesday
-i won't be back till the 17th
-so if that dumas decides to give it to your or martin
-can you guy's just hold it for me
-till i get back?
-remember to tell martin that if he gets it
-ok thanks?

Me:
-sorry
-I had to go help my mom carry stuff
-Why is it today
-everyone keeps calling me
-I had like
-4 people message me at the same time
-Sorry
-I was relly busy this morning (At this time, I was a bit ticked off, but I brushed it off)

Cousin:
-yeah well who the hell cares what those other people are messaging
-i'm pretty sure my shit is more important

Me:
-And yes, I will tell my brother and Jimmy
-Don't worry

Cousin:
-i mean if your getting aggravated by people messaging you so much and THAT is the hardest point of your day (I'm not even aggravated)
-you should feel lucky
-i mean you pretty much sound as 'busy' as jimmy
-and i think you should be there for that 'talk' i have with him

Me:
-I was busy today, I had to help my family carry around stuff

Cousin:
-because this is about respect ok
-you had to carry around stuff
-that doesnt sound like the hardest thing in the world
-i've heard excuses
-do you want to hear a dumb one?
-ask your friend jimmy
-he'll give you a bunch
-don't give me shit excuses
-point is i'm not trying to disturb your life or something
-but understand this
-something called gratitude
-you should feel lucky that the hardest thing you've had to do today is carry stuff for your family
-sure it sounds like i'm lecturing you
-and i'm fine with that
-because imagine if i didn't tell you this
-and you become more and more used to this way you are thinking
-you would think the smallest act would be so tedious
-you understand?
-get your shit together man
-got it?
-because i swear you start acting like that dumas
-i'll knock you both around
-got it?

Me:
-Dude, I'm not acting like Jimmy at all
-I was really busy this morning
-I am trying my best to help you
-I relayed messages from you to Jimmy multiple times

Cousin:
-yeah well don't act like the world is coming down on you because you had a busy morning

Me:
-I'm not....

Cousin:
-like mutliple people messaging you at the same time
-wow tha'ts a disaster
-if you don't want people messaging you
-maybe don't be online
-point is i'm telling you that if he gives you the xbox, that i was asking if you could keep it until i get back
-that is a NEW piece of information i had to get to you
-what's the other messages that you got?
-so they were probably saying shit like 'hey lets play league later or something'
-right?
-tha'ts probably not new information because you do that often anyway
-i swear man, you will need to be there when i talk to that little kid
-because A kids will learn respect
-and B yeah your life can always get worse depending on how you treat people
-so yes thanks dextor
-for trying to get the message across
-but don't start acting like you are too busy for things
-because lets face it
-you aren't
-just as jimmy really isn't as busy as he makes himself out to be
-so i hope you understand where I"M coming from
-and yeah you can ignore the messages i guess
-but at least heed this last piece of advice
-character and behaviour
-your character is based on your actions and consistency
-you are only as good as your actions
-so if you want to be respected, you have to earn it
-so again THANK YOU dextor for trying to help me
-and i HOPE you understand what i have said
-or else it's just falling on deaf ears
-anyways, yeah no response to that
-i hope you are just really busy
-anyways good luck with whatever you are doing

By this point, I had enough of his "ranting", and I had to continue helping my family pack stuff.
He then responds 3 hours later with MORE rants.

-oh yeah thanks for responding to what i said dexter
-you can try being disrespectful
-it won't get you far
-so it's best to smarten up now
-don't turn into a dumas






Basically, something has happened to my cousin that made him suddenly change into a jerk, I don't know what made him do this. All I said was I'll be AFK a bit, since I'm ingame, and normally he just says ok. Even he says he'll be ingame sometimes. and I'm ok with it. I never swore at him at any point in the arguments, and I never aggressed him. I helped throughout this entire XBOX fiasco, despite Jimmy being one of my other good IRL friends. I didn't want anyone to fight.


Last night, I talked to my mom about this, thinking she would help me with this situation. I believe they made me feel worse. She tried to be "two sided", stating the bad sides of both me and my cousin, but I felt she mainly shot her arguments at me, saying this all started because I play video games, which to me really ticked me off. She continued to fire her arguments at me and blaming video games and such till I was honestly, truthfully to the point where tears started flowing down my face.

I now lost a good friend of mine. And my mom did nothing in my opinion to help. I really hope you guys can understand this from my point of view. I really care about you guys and I've known you all for years now, not as much as my cousin, but I feel more... Closer to you all than him. I love all you guys, and I hope we will all remain friends forever.

Thank you guys for listening , and I'm sorry if I soured the mood for anyone's day.

[PhoLover93]

What a self-pretentious jerkwad.